How Saying yes to everyone else can mean saying no to yourself: How to get clear about what you really want and Need.
I know I have been talking a lot about mindset, stress reduction and meditation lately, I truly believe it is the most important aspect of health and fitness. There is no true wellness without a healthy, happy mind. Going within yourself will allow you to appreciate and thieve in all ways: physically, mentally, in relationships, in how you see yourself and certainly in how you treat your body.
Most of us have heard the biblical statement "... and the truth will set you free". This statement means different things to different people, but to me it is about standing in your truths and beliefs. It means breaking free from the bondage created by not expressing what you want, believe, know or feel. Maybe it is being a slave to your thoughts, who you secretly think you are or a slave to a lifestyle that does not serve you (be it spiritual or habitual). It is about being trapped.
Everyday I see people (myself included) being slaves to the over scheduled, technological overloaded and hustle hard mentality of our current world. It can be a spirit killer and takes us far far away from the present moment (the only moment that matters). The question is... When you say yes to everything, what are you actually saying no to?
What are we sacrificing when we ignore what our body and intuition is telling us? Being happy? Being relax? Enjoying your family? Being connected? Personal Growth? Spiritual connection? Self love? Health? Wellness? Sex? Seriously...What are you saying NO to when you say YES to everyone else? Sometimes winning is actually losing.
Over the last couple years every time I sat in mediation or reflected with my spiritual and professional coaches (it takes a village) there was one word that kept repeatedly popping into my mind, it was the word FREEDOM. Clearly I was feeling unfree or enslaved in some way. I felt trapped in my own schedule, a schedule that I created! I felt trapped by my own expectations and judgements...that I created! I had created my own prison and until I set myself free within my mind I would be trapped.
Being free doesn't always mean doing less (although often times it does), it means doing things that make you feel good. Things that fulfill your happiness and your truth. What is important to you is unique to you. For example, I realized that a big part of my spiritual growth is being able to do nothing. To be still and quiet. To me that is true freedom.
5 Questions that can help you get really clear about what you truly want.
1-How do you want to feel in your life? What words pop into your mind?
2-Is your current lifestyle sustainable long term?
3-Do you currently feel constricted or free in your life?
4-Do you feel energized or exhausted?
5-Are you standing up for yourself? Do you put yourself first?
Take a moment to answer these questions. You can write them down in a journal or ponder them in meditation. Allow yourself the time and space to breathe and check in with YOU and what YOU want. Remember putting yourself first is not selfish. You cannot serve others if you are drowning.
Looking for free meditations that you can listen to right on your phone? (plus my current workout playlist)
Follow my personal fitness, nutrition and personal journeys and explorations.