Do you ever feel like a complete failure because you know what to do...you just don't do it? Well before you go judging and criticizing yourself I want you to know you are not alone. In fact, it makes complete sense. Making new habits or reinstating previous good habits takes time, repetition, dedication, trial and error. We need to strengthen that good old "habit muscle".
There are so many books, youtube channels, magazine, websites, and programs out there for us to choose from, we should all be in tip top shape, RIGHT? It is no secret that we are in a time of information overload and the more information we consider the more confused and distracted we become. You know the saying, “when you fail to plan you plan to fail” or "the confused mind does nothing"...so true! Add in the fact that we are all so "busy", and it becomes crucial to pencil in time to take care of ourselves. I truly believe that a good solid plan and some serious accountability is the key for success. We need a clear and consistent strategy in place, and once we have that plan in place there needs to some kind of accountability to keep us on track.
“I should be able to do this on my own.” Maybe not, we need to give ourselves the grace and space to form, strengthen, and develop new habits. This is where it helps to have a group, a coach or an accountability partner to help keep you on track.
"Accountability is about follow through and getting done what you said you would get done."
I believe accountability can be one of the biggest differentiators between being successful and unsuccessful when it comes to your goals. Yes being accountable to only yourself works for some, but it does not for all (especially in the beginning), sometimes we need another person to help us be accountable to our goals, to motivate us to keep going.
Here is why:
"Accountability is the difference between success and failure."
Accountability is something that has to be worked at. Ideally we should be accountable to ourselves and be able to self regulate, that is of course the end goal. But until we have built up those strong habits accountability is crucial for success. Just beware of who you choose as an accountability partner. Sometimes personal relationships can be less then ideal for accountability. For example, If your best friend is also your partner in crime, you may be quick to let each other off the hook if something more appealing pop ups ("We have to go off plan! It's wine night!") or maybe having your husband holding you accountable ignites your inner rebel ("Honey do you think eating that cookie is a good idea?"...TRIGGERED). I think it is best to have an accountability partner that is perhaps a little more objective and less close to home. I suggest finding a group, a coach or a friend from a different social group (maybe a work pal) to help you stay accountable to yourself and your goals. Before you know it, those habits will become so strong that you won’t need to be reminded. They will eventually become second nature.
What do think about accountability? Please share your thoughts and experiences in the comments xo Anna.