It always take me a few weeks to get into the groove of a new year. To be honest I usually set a quick no holds barred goal for the first of January. One year I went 365 days without eating potato chips, one year it was 365 days of drinking 500ml first thing in the morning (both of these things have become permanent changes!). This year I committed to 365 days of getting onto the mat or floor for at least 10min of yoga. I am on day 18 and my body feels better already and it really eases me into my goal from last year (daily meditation). I do admit that this goal may be more challenging then the chips or water because it actually takes time. But I love this chill time for myself and my body. I am committed.
As for my other goals...it is taking a little more reflection and I am still getting them together. I actually don't mind the delay, especially since I don’t think the best time to make a big life decision is after a couple of weeks out of my usual routine and schedule. It is easy to swear off all alcohol, coffee and carbohydrates after a couple weeks of holiday madness, but is that a true reflection of daily life? Is that what I want my life to look like a couple months from now or in the long run? Maybe. Maybe not. The point is we need to think and reflect on what we truly want and need in 2019.
Upon my own personal reflection over the last year, I am realizing more and more that there is truly no point in committing to things that don’t make me happy. It seems obvious…but it's not. We say yes to things all the time that don’t make us happy, we make resolutions and commitments that are half-hearted because if we are really honest, we don’t actually want to do or commit to these things.
Every year I get closer and closer to figuring out what makes me happy versus what looks good on paper. I have to admit I am not fully there yet, but little by little I am making decision that put my long term health and happiness first.
Doing this means really tunning into who I truly am and how I thieve. Asking myself what truly makes me happy and content day to day. Last year my resolution was to live with EASE and FREEDOM and I realized living this way, takes a bold commitment to boundaries. It takes bravery and confidence to say no and it can be painful or sad in the short term.
A big part of discovering what you really want means letting go of comparing yourself to others. There is no comparison. We are all so different in nature that it truly makes zero sense to compare.
For example, an extrovert is going to have a completely different schedule than an introvert, you cannot compare their social calendars. An extrovert is energized by other people, while an introvert needs to be alone to recharge. Embrace your nature and cater your life and goals to serve you.
We are all in different positions at any given moment, with different thresholds for pain or intensity. Perhaps an elite athlete has devoted all their time to training and pushing themselves to the max. They have time scheduled in for rest, nutrition, message and sleep. While others may have too many outside commitments to train at an elite level (children, dogs, ailing parents, high-stress careers, illness). They may not want to commit to hours upon hours of athletic training. They need to find a different way to achieve their goals.
And then there are those who seem to able to do it all, the kids, the dogs, the career, the gym, and all with an abundance of energy. Maybe genetically they have a high threshold for stress and endurance. Who knows and who cares…its, not a contest.
We all need to find what works for us. What our bodies like and need, what our brains and spirits need to be happy. What our hearts need to be content. Let’s not compare ourselves, especially when we have absolutely no clue what happens behind the scenes in anyone’s life.
I am not saying do not set goals. I am saying that we should set what Danielle Laporte calls “goals with soul”. Goals that create your core desired feeling and that inspire you and you only. What would you do or create if no-one was watching.
I commit to healthy whole foods and yoga because I want to thrive and it makes me I feel mobile, energized and strong. Of course, I have various specifics craved out to make this happen. Being successful takes planning. Step 1 is figuring out what you want, step 2 is creating a plan to make it happen. Step 3, is committing 100%.
Jack (Chicken Soup for the Soul) Canfield has a line that really snapped me into goal-setting reality. He says: “99% is a bitch. 100% is a breeze.”
If you commit to things half-heartedly or if you commit to things you don’t really want, you will always find that 1% wiggle room for excuses no matter what. I kept this in mind when I set my goals and intention for the year, I dug deep and asked myself what I was willing to commit to 100%. If it wasn’t 100%, I acknowledged that I was not ready and that I would play with it and explore it until I was sure. Bottomline is, I really tried not to commit to things that I didn't really feel 100% drawn to. What are your goals and how do want to feel in 2019? Fill me in. Happy New Year xoxo Anna.
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